Tradition is a funny thing. Actually it's not that funny, at least in this case. Or maybe you do find it funny. The point being that tradition is a thing of the past and nowadays it is completely open to interpretation and action. Because something was a certain way in the past doesn't mean that it has to be that way now. You don't have to get married in a big church or have everything structured a classical way. You don't have to wear "proper wedding attire." Dress nice obviously, but who says that a big white dress is necessary? Get a light blue dress or some other color. White was supposed to symbolize the purity of the bride and chances are she didn't hold to tradition if you get my meaning. Same goes for the groom and groomsmen, though guys tend to look clean and sharp in something simple, but still be unique. Wear matching ties that are a little crazy. Mix it up. Go crazy with the groomsmen gifts. Just realize that tradition isn't necessary. You live in a different day and age, so do something different. This is even more true for traditions that involve kidnapping the girl you're interested in, those crazy commie russians..